BiPolarBoyBoston Wrote:
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> its weird…
> the less guys a girl banged the more valuable she
> is to guys but.. the more girls a guy banged the
> more valuable he is to a girl
It’s not weird. Excluding extreme cases, a girl can only have a few babies in her life time. If you’re the guy supporting those, you better be damn sure they are yours, hence the double standard. A guy can essentially impregnate unlimited women. If his seed is that in demand, it’s natural to think that most women would want to be a part of that (she wants to be competitive, after all – the guy obviously has something going for him, and by association, his kids should, too – if she doesn’t get in on that action and other women do, presumably her offspring will be at a competitive disadvantage).
Basically, it’s a problem of quantity vs. quality – men are incentivized to pass on their genes to the widest possible pool of women since they are making a small up front investment of time and energy. Women are incentivized to get the highest quality mate possible, since they are making a much larger investment of time and energy. This is the same reason women prefer men who are already with another woman – the first woman has done the screening process for other women and has determined the guy in question is of a certain (high or higher) quality level. If you doubt this, try walking down the street by yourself, and then walk down the street with an attractive woman, and see how many more looks you get from other women (dramatic increase). If you still doubt this, recognize that women who cheat almost always cheat up in socioeconomic status – your wife might start banging a doctor or an investment banker (or a hedge fund guy – haha), but you can be pretty sure she isn’t going to start bopping the guy who works at McD’s.
All of this assumes a non-modern evolutionary context to mating. The industrial revolution only happened a couple of hundred years ago, and we are still in the cave from an evolutionary psychology perspective, so things like child support, paternity tests, and contemporary value systems haven’t erased the basic fundamental drives and incentive systems that shaped the species over millenia. This is why men love sluts but never want to commit to one. Think about it.