CFA + Relationship=Conflict

I heard someone say last night “That’s why men are smart and women are wise.”
 
I think the outcome is critical.
I got ignored, but with this designation he’ll make more money someday = your S/O knows something about investing.
I got ignored, and he still failed = You just thought failing made you feel like a loser
 
I’ve been telling my wife for years that I’ll be home late because I’m “studying” for the exam.
 
The only conflict that I had was my wife nagging me to study harder. Couple of weeks before the exam, during the cramming nights, she made snacks for me and on the test day she packed a nice lunch with all sorts of brain food….I never thought lawyers could be so nice :-)
 
All I have to say is that if I didn’t pass L3 last year, I’m thinking my H probably would have called divorce lol (I’m kidding…well I hope that isn’t so :) I’m really lucky to have a very supportive significant other.
As with everything in life, you need to find your balance. I think talking to your S/O before you start studying to establish expectations is key! All it takes is, “You know, the CFA is a big commitment so that’ll probably mean I’m studying from X to X and will basically be unavailable. Will you be okay with that?” What my H and I use to do is we made quality time at 10 pm every night. I made the commitment to be back by then and we’d connect at that time. Every relationship is different, some people are needier than others. Just be respectful that they miss you.
Now that I’m the other side of the coin, where my husband is training for 22 weeks (leaving at 5am and back at 8pm and up studying til 10pm) I am so grateful that he was so understanding for all those levels. Really!! I’m having a tough time going through (equivalent to) one session, I can’t imagine 3 or more!! Seeing both perspectives, I understand what you’re S/O’s are going through! I miss my H much, and yes it does feel like you’re roommates with benefits. All I look forward to is counting down the weeks til the end!
 
I used to be ppular, now I have no friends.
Like the guy in the chartered financial banalist post on leveragedsellout I don’t hav ethe fire anymore
 
Called it quits on a 5 yr relationship during L2 last year. Obviously the CFA was not the sole reason, but it sure as hell did not help anything (during or after the breakup).
 
another single fella here. It’s great studywise; however, I do miss putting in time to replenish/sustain a pipeline of women.
Thats why i’m thinking of a not so serious relationship for the next 5 months to have the companionship when required.
 
After achieving my charter last year, I thanked my husband for his support. never one day did he complain.
Looking back, the CFA program taught me that I had to prioritize my time, what is important and what is not. happily now, it was one of the best exercise that I have done for myself, as I learnt to quit bad habits that took a lot of my time. now, I am more focused and vocal of what I want. Conflict is another form of guilt implying that you have not made the step to choose the best for yourself.
 
wifey is very supportive and pesters me to continue with studying for the CFA. I’m in sellside research (BB) where the CFA is encouraged and ironically, it’s my analyst trying to disuade me from taking it.
 
Felt like my friends were more demanding as time came closer to a test. This girl i really wanted to bang called me friday before the exam at 2am asking me if i wanted to get something to eat…..
sadly…. i said no. I failed that test. bad investment.
Next time i took it everyone was pretty much supportive. my “significant other” that ive been seeing for like 5 years sometimes would try and change my study schedule but i was persistant and well… shell get over it.
emra
 
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