Dating while studying for the CFA

That’s a choice you need to make. If you really care about him and see a future together, then to me, it’s not a get out of jail card at all. He needs support in his time of need right now. are you going to give it to him?
Now, if you’re just in it for the fun and instant gratification, and don’t want to deal with it, then fine. dump him and move on.
Or are you trying to say that if you do him this good thing now, you will expect him to pay you back ?
 
I’ve been on this board a while and I never recall a significant other coming on here for advice. +1 for the guts to ask.
 
I think bchad had a great suggestion about packing a nice lunch for exam day.
The last few weeks before the exam are pretty intense–I wouldn’t put much stock into anything he says or does in terms of what it means for your overall relationship. You just need to decide whether you want to be supportive for three more weeks. It’s understandable if you don’t think it’s worth it, but it’s not too much longer to wait!
 
Thanks, I just really wanted to understand what he is going through and I have heard people say the CFA is tough, but I am not in finance I am in marketing, I do not know anything about this test. We are a pretty new relationship and I like him a lot and see a future. I figured what better way to get advice then going to the source. I dont want to nag him with too many questions and ask him but is it really this test and sound needy. I am sure that will just distract him from studying.
 
Ekcrew wrote:
Thanks, I just really wanted to understand what he is going through and I have heard people say the CFA is tough, but I am not in finance I am in marketing, I do not know anything about this test. We are a pretty new relationship and I like him a lot and see a future. I figured what better way to get advice then going to the source. I dont want to nag him with too many questions and ask him but is it really this test and sound needy. I am sure that will just distract him from studying.
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OP’s boyfriend is lucky. Being a supportive significant other: You’re doing it right.
As mentioned, packing him a lunch and helping with taking him to/from the exam center are all nice things to do.
And one final thing no one has mentioned: In three months, when he gets his results (assuming you’re still together), GRANT HIM SOME GODDAMNED PERSPECTIVE. Jesus, yes, the exam is important, but failing the CFA exam is such a first-world-problem. The CFA exam doesn’t lend itself well to one’s spouse or S.O. serving as a “study buddy”, but y’all can serve as an important reminder that there is more to life than this exam.
 
Ekcrew wrote:
So even his horrible attitude during all this, I should give him a get out of jail free card?
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I guess that depends on what you mean by “horrible attitude.” If it just means that he’s stressed and unavailable, then I’d cut him some slack. If he’s actually mean and nasty to you, that’s something different.
And you’re not giving him a get out of jail free card, you’re just holding off to see if he makes up for it afterwards. If he doesn’t, then go ahead and dump him. But quite honestly, I think putting up with his being distant for a few weeks and possibly developing a great relationship afterwards with someone likely to do very well for himself vs. deciding you don’t want to deal with it anymore… I’d give him the three weeks and see what happens. Three weeks is peanuts in the grand scheme of things, particularly if you see a future.
Now, assuming that you have decided to go through with being supportive and make a lunch for him. Go ahead and slip in a little note to discover when he pulls out the sandwich and have it say you’re proud of him and you’re behind him 100% and looking forward to picking him when he’s done no matter how well he thinks it went. We guys can’t admit that we like that stuff, but it still feels really good in a stressful moment.
Of course, if you happen to be dating AF forum member transferpricingCFA, I change my mind and recommend that you run. Run away as fast as you can. ;-)
 
The absolute 100% best thing you can do is go take a vacation and call him after june 2nd. The best you can expect from him is him trying to be polite so he can get back to work.
The whole experience is a brainwash.
 
What do you mean the whole experience is a brainwash?
 
bchadwick wrote:
Ekcrew wrote:
So even his horrible attitude during all this, I should give him a get out of jail free card?
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I guess that depends on what you mean by “horrible attitude.” If it just means that he’s stressed and unavailable, then I’d cut him some slack. If he’s actually mean and nasty to you, that’s something different.
And you’re not giving him a get out of jail free card, you’re just holding off to see if he makes up for it afterwards. If he doesn’t, then go ahead and dump him. But quite honestly, I think putting up with his being distant for a few weeks and possibly developing a great relationship afterwards with someone likely to do very well for himself vs. deciding you don’t want to deal with it anymore… I’d give him the three weeks and see what happens. Three weeks is peanuts in the grand scheme of things, particularly if you see a future.
Now, assuming that you have decided to go through with being supportive and make a lunch for him. Go ahead and slip in a little note to discover when he pulls out the sandwich and have it say you’re proud of him and you’re behind him 100% and looking forward to picking him when he’s done no matter how well he thinks it went. We guys can’t admit that we like that stuff, but it still feels really good in a stressful moment.
Of course, if you happen to be dating AF forum member transferpricingCFA, I change my mind and recommend that you run. Run away as fast as you can. ;-)
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bchad, you could open a course for women on “how to win a man over”
 
Ekcrew,
Don’t worry about it…let him study. The difficulty of the CFA program calls upon people to give up a lot.
I love my horse, and I am paying another girl to ride him right now.
 
Please give this guy some time off.
I have bad experience before. The story was like, my job is killing me, have to work overtime at night and cannot get sickleave (i was really sick at that moment). And I was so unlucky having a very unsupportive and demanding girlfriend at that time, have to go out every weekend despite I have repeatedly saying “Leave me alone. I need to study. I am not dating anyone. Trust me.” . I think I get my message across quite nicely, but she obviously doesn’t understand. So the story was that I failed that L2 exam.
Weekend is the most valuable study time. During weekdays I think I am just like everyone else, most people get so tired afterwork and their brian can only function with 50% capacity.
Ekcrew, it seems you are supportive enough and caring enough to go posting on this forum. That’s good for you.
I wish you the best. and Good luck your boy friend’s Exam
 
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