joey... i need cheap online psychological help.

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I'm basically a functional individual except for when this 1 unmentionable thing happens... Whenever that thing happens (~once a year), I can't think of anything else. It is irrational to dwell on it because it happens all the time to people all over the world. Most people just shrug it off. I can't function. I can't work. I provide extremely poor conversation over dinner. I realize i have an obsession problem.. how can I get rid of this monkey on my back? I know already it will be nagging me for 2+ weeks... Don't ask me what "the thing" is just tell me how to stop thinking about "the thing" so I can function again.
 
Assuming that you are serious about this...

First off, I don't really know anything about psychology even though I pretend to do Freudian dream interpretations on AF (at least, I don't know anything now since I left psych grad school more than 20 yrs ago and never looked back).

Online therapy is pretty controversial. The American Psychological Association actually endorses it now as permissable and effective but I don't think anyone would say that online therapy is as effective as traditional therapy. On the other hand, if you lived in some remote area it would be better than not having therapy at all. I'm a pretty big seller, but I'm not sure my opinion on that matters. I know there are therapists on Kasamba.com but I don't know anything about the quality of the therapy.

This kind of obsessional problem is pretty common and the kind of thing that therapists treat all the time. I suggest that you go find a therapist - it's not that expensive and most therapists have sliding scales and accept medical insurance. If you lived around Greenwich, CT, I would tell you I know a great therapist for this kind of thing (www.harborbridgect.com). If you are not around here, www.psychologytoday.com has a "find a therapist" service that seems very useful (also a discussion forum like this for professional psychologists where I may or may not pretend to be a professional psychologist). There is also advice on there about finding a good therapist.

Finding a therapist you like isn't a bad thing in any case. It's one of those things like having a lawyer. For instance, if you start having emotional problems from a bad relationship, an accident, a death of someone close to you, etc. you will not want to shop for a therapist then.
 
Well since you won't say your problem, I have NO idea how to help. If this is a serious problem then I suggest that you GET SERIOUS about your problem. No cheap online psychologist can solve it. Save the money or go into debt and get this problem solved face to face with a decent psychologist. It will make you a better person and don't worry about the debt, if you're a better person you'll be able to work/save more efficiently and pay it off.
 
You guys can't just tell me the recommended (non-drug) treatment for mild & irrational obsessive disorders?
 
Most obsessive disorders are self perpetuating, in that the individuals suffering are conditioning themselves by repeating a certain behavior to mitigate the anxiety. In order to overcome this "thing" you must focus on something else which carries more emotional/intellectual/whatever weight. Or you can just work out to the point where you think you are going to pass out, then work out for another hour beyond that point. Exercise is a justifiable type of co-dependency.
 
bryant Wrote:
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> Most obsessive disorders are self perpetuating, in
> that the individuals suffering are conditioning
> themselves by repeating a certain behavior to
> mitigate the anxiety. In order to overcome this
> "thing" you must focus on something else which
> carries more emotional/intellectual/whatever
> weight. Or you can just work out to the point
> where you think you are going to pass out, then
> work out for another hour beyond that point.
> Exercise is a justifiable type of co-dependency.


what if the 'thing' is a CFA exam?
 
Yeah, the feeling I'm dealing with now is similar to the post exam waiting on the score results (the hours before the results are supposed to be posted). It's not like studying or taking the test... both of those situations one has an illusion of control.

I just read up on OCD. That isn't what i have. I have a very focused, singular irrational obsession that occurs infrequently. I'm working my way through it by compartmentalizing my brain as if my thought process is a house with many rooms. The thoughts I'm trying to avoid are in a room that I try not to go in. The herpes joke helped, thanks.
 
go out drinking with your buddies? I tend to have the attention span of a flea when I drink. That should help get your mind off of 'it'.

Does it have to do with sports?
 
No, but it is very similar to the feeling of being on the wrong end of a bad call by a referee.
 
virginCFAhooker Wrote:
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> Yeah, the feeling I'm dealing with now is similar
> to the post exam waiting on the score results (the
> hours before the results are supposed to be
> posted). It's not like studying or taking the
> test... both of those situations one has an
> illusion of control.
>
> I just read up on OCD. That isn't what i have. I
> have a very focused, singular irrational obsession
> that occurs infrequently. I'm working my way
> through it by compartmentalizing my brain as if my
> thought process is a house with many rooms. The
> thoughts I'm trying to avoid are in a room that I
> try not to go in. The herpes joke helped, thanks.

Being sort-of psychodynamically oriented myself, that sounds like a bad idea to me, but what do I know?

Nah, you can't diagnose OCD for something that appears for a short period and then goes away. Anyway, these diagnoses don't mean that much anyway. If you care, if you went to the shrink you would probably get a diagnosis of "anxiety disorder otherwise unspecified" or perhaps (depending on what this thing is) "phobia disorder". But who cares, you want to get better.

Most therapists you would go to now would do cognitive or cognitive behavior therapy to help you with this. It would be painless, last not many sessions, and probably be effective. Why try to solve this yourself? It's like do-it-yourself dentistry. It's possible, but the results are never as good as you could get at the dentist and you'll probably end up at the dentist anyway.

Ever read about Freud and OCD? He had a patient who observed a torture of someone by having rats eat through the guy's bowels and developed OCD about rats or something. Ick. (I probably don't have that story exactly right).
 
> Ever read about Freud and OCD? He had a patient who observed a torture of someone by having rats eat through the guy's bowels and developed OCD about rats or something. Ick. (I probably don't have that story exactly right).

You can get the idea by watching John Hurt in the movie of 1984.
 
Sounds like you may be having an anxiety attack. It happens to many people, including myself, at times.
The main problem regarding alleviating these, I find, is that even when you realize what's going on and take steps (i.e. deap breaths, trying to focus on something else) it takes a little while for the adrenaline in your system to burn off. I believe it is extra adrenaline that sustains the intense discomfort / fear of an anxiety attack.
I have found that intense aerobic exercise at least 3-4 times a week can help not only prevent this from happening but can lessen the magnitude when one comes along- I believe that somehow when you're in decent shape your body can better absorb the fear chemical- adrenaline. Also I found that being able to recognize the onset and kind of accept that it's happening (not fighting it) may lessen it.
 
Try meditation, seriously. It helps immensely in discovering your innerself and being in peace with your trueself, whatever it is.

I strongly recommend any of the following three... Please see their schedule and attend their lecture series (attend for 1 week and you will see the difference).

1) http://us.artofliving.org/
2) http://www.dhyanapeetam.org/default.asp
3) http://www.amma.org/
 
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