CFA L3 candidate married to a CFA L3 candidate...not as smooth ride as I thought it would be...

mk17 wrote:
Getting a routine is important. You need to reset your body’s natural clock… your body is not naturally exhausted at the end of the day, maybe work out for an hour to help compensate.
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Agree! Follow his advice ! Some work out will do you good.
I also have got sleeping issues in the past 10 days though I am on my holiday, free from work and studying. Tomorrow I will be back to work and the first step to adjust my natural clock was to go for gym this afternoon :). Hope I will have a good sleep tonight :).
Good luck with your exam and family issues !
 
I think people overrate household chores. Yes, I said it. But my wife and I can clean the whole house in about an hour on a Sunday morning. Badda boom. Cooking, eatting and cleaning dinner takes an hour a day if you hammer away. So we’re talking 8 or 9 hours a week of housework.
Raising kids is a lot of work, cleaning a house is not. But unless you have a huge ranch (oil ranch?) with several buildings, you’re just not managing your time well, it’s not that you don’t have enough of it.
I find that tasks generally expand or contract into the time that you have. If you have lots of time on your hands, it takes a lot of time to get things done. Set hard deadlines. From 12:30pm to 5:00pm you’re study, end of story. Everything else needs to fit into the rest of the day. Or whatever times work best for your family.
Good luck with your exam.
 
Hello sumz,
I hope you are reading this because i do think that what i am going to say will give you a new perspective.
What you need to do is prioritize!
What is the most important thing for you to accomplish right now? Is it being a good wife? a good daughter in law? or passing the CFA exam?
I understand you, like everyone, would want to achieve all those and while mutli-tasking is sometimes possible, but on the back of your head you always need to know what to give up when you need to choose between them.
Things never go as planned, like a sick family member, and i think you are absolutely right about being a full time housewife is a tough job! And if this is the new responsibility that you are signing on right now, i think you should consider giving your full attention to it first, and then, once you get the hang of things, go back to CFA.
Remember, CFA is just a piece of paper, don’t let it stress you out more than it should. it doesn’t mean you are an incompetent person if you don’t pass it this year. Families and relationships are forever!

BEST OF LUCK ^_^
NANA
 
I don’t think ti’s just about cleaning, surely, if you just need to clean a house you can spend 2 hours a day cleaning and you’re done.
But if you have in laws to take care of, and they are picky, it’s not a simple task, just think about making 3 meals a day, shopping, prepping, cleaning and know exactly what’s missing in the house and tend to their requests and also visit the father in law in the hospital, laundry, and repeat this everyday, it’s a huge job!
It gets better over time though, when you have a routine, like someone else said. but in the beginning when you are not familiar with other people’s tastes adn preferences, they can be hard to please!
 
^ If no kids, it’s not a full time gig. It’s not even a part-time gig.
 
Sumz-here is a perspective from a Saudi married level 2 candidate. I will comment on some aspects of your situation and hope it will help you in what you are experiencing. I think that most of CFA candidates experience or have experienced several difficulties outside the CFA books or EOC qs or understanding concepts and I think those are difficult tests and I have never committed to studying in my years of education as I did to those set of exams ( holding bachelors & masters degrees in engineering ). Understanding concepts ,IMO, needs a very clear mode and distractions would make it difficult to concentrate. Some of the CFA candidates have problems at work & some have a stable work while having family problems and others have probably both. I have long working hours, I travell a lot and I have a wife who wants me to spend time with. My wife is a full time housewife, unfortunate for a CFA candidate. She wants to work and I want her to work more than her ( specially at level 2) and she is still looking for one. She has been supportive to me but I always feel guilty for being busy with studying, work & other things. My mother does not live with us but lives less than a mile away and she does not know about my CFA involvement ( mainly because she has high blood pressure & diabetes and she worries a lot and I didnt want to put more pressure on her). Consequently, I do not visit her alot being busy with work as well as the exam. My wife is very kind to my mom and very respectful. However, problems within our family still exist and it bothers me a lot ( although she does not live with us). Sister - we are very different from the western culture. Some problems, specially with MIL, are caused by jeaousness. Whenver my mom critisizes my wife and I try to defend her, bigger problems arise. Unfortunately, you have to deal with them even if you were not a CFA candidate. I forgot to mention that I have 6 other siblings. Your husband is their only one ( elevating jeaousness ). Remember that she and your FIL would later push for seeing your children not too long from your marriage and the exam is held once a year ( as my parents always bring this into our conversation ). I love my wife a lot but I would never imagine that I would be on her side against my mother. I think that if problems with her are controllable, avoid telling him ( if you want him to pass). You are also in a good advantage since you and your husband are both taking the exam. I would recommend that you & your husband have the same material review order & probably suggest going to coffee to do practise, discussing concepts or whatever. A lot of candidates spend at least 9 hours at work & have difficulty in sleeping ( I do most of the time - both after work & at night ) and anxiety increases as more days pass & schedule committment get cut. I really suggest that you read a thread written here by Greenman for level 1 failures. I read it when I failed last year and I always compare distractions I encounter to other candidates.
good luck for both of you
 
I agree, try to prioritize and handle all tasks, but not letting any of them fall off. Just get up early and start drinking coffee in the morning to get a few hours in before people in the house wake up. Then spend some time with the in laws in the daytime and spend some time at night reviewing the material with your husband. Take extra advantage of the fact that your husband is studying for the same exact thing since you have a study buddy on demand! That’s great news. Look for the positives and keep your energy level up, even if someone criticizes you. That’s how they are and over time you’ll learn to ignore it. Just try to control your thoughts and focus, trust me, I know it’s hard but you can do it.
 
Women make it more than it has to be. There, I said it.
 
Surviving and succeeding in the corporate world is much more difficult than being great at household chores. There, I said it.
 
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